You’re struggling with whether or not to stay in a relationship. You hate your job but feel there are no other options. You are scared to take on a new opportunity or feel “stuck” in a situation. It seems like everyone around you is more confident and more successful than you. You’ve talked to your mom or dad, your brother or sister, your best friend, and none of them have advice that seems to click. Should you go to a counselor or therapist?
Sometimes people aren’t clinically depressed or anxious, don’t have serious mental health issues, are generally feeling okay, and still don’t feel like everything is fitting together quite right. You might not feel like “therapy” is a good fit for you, or may not feel that what you’re going through is “serious enough” for a counselor’s office.
That’s where coaching comes in.
What is coaching?
Coaching is action-oriented and is usually short-term. Coaching helps you to gain clarity, understand what is holding you back, put together a plan, and encourages and supports you as you follow through.
People think of counseling or therapy as a way of examining the past, healing emotional traumas, and sometimes acquiring a diagnosis, and there is no doubt that this is exactly what some clients need. However, it might not be the right fit for everyone.
Here’s how the International Coach Federation describes life coaching:
“Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve their performances and enhance the quality of their lives. Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach’s job is to provide support to enhance the skills, resources and creativity that the client already has.”
Who should utilize coaching?
Individuals who are having trouble functioning day-to-day, who feel like they’ve fallen into a deep dark hole, or who are concerned about diagnosable mental illness should always seek a trained mental health professional. But, what about everyone else?
Those clients who benefit from coaching are usually functioning within a healthy range, but may also feel as though they aren’t reaching their potential or are stuck in a stressful situation. Coaching can help clients who are in difficult relationships, are starting a new business, creating a new life after divorce, pursuing a promotion, trying to figure out what to do with their lives, and an infinite number of other scenarios.
Coaching offers you an opportunity to talk things over with someone who is unbiased and outside the situation, and research shows that simply talking about what you’re feeling is good for your brain.
In essence, everyone should utilize coaching services at some point in their lives because being a human is challenging. You’re not supposed to know how to tackle every problem that comes up for you, and you don’t have to figure it out alone.
If you love the idea of talking to someone who can help you figure things out, and hate the thought of going to “therapy,” you’re not the only one. Give me a call at 423-822-2054.
We’ll talk and figure out what specifically you’re looking for. If I can’t help, I’ll point you in the direction of someone who can.