I’m over at the Chattanooga Moms Blog today, writing about the research on physical punishment. (It’s not good….)
I remember the first time I ever spanked one of my children. I was a young mom – 24 years old – and my toddler was fighting me while I tried to change her diaper. Without even thinking, I hit her thigh because I was so frustrated. I will always remember the look on her face – a look of complete surprise and shock that her mother had just hit her and caused her pain. I felt terrible. When my second child came along, I went through a rough phase during her toddler years where I swatted her when I couldn’t figure out what else to do. Every single time I did it, it was out of anger, and I knew it wasn’t the kind of parenting I wanted to do. I resolved not to spank my children any more and began a long journey towards self-awareness and positive, conscious parenting.